Please Explain “Alzheimer’s Disease” to Me

 

 

Please Explain Alzheimer’s Disease to Me – A Children’s Story and Parent Handbook About Dementia introduces the condition to children in a colorful, sensitive and gentle story, followed by a parent/caregiver section that supplies comprehensive information that adults can use to understand and plan for the course of the disease affecting their loved one.

Dr. Zelinger, a board-certified psychologist for children, presents the situation to children in a warm, developmentally appropriate way using appealing characters of diversity, child friendly language and familiar scenes they can relate to, as well as scripts that parents can use when speaking to their child. This book is more than a helpful guide-it’s the only book you will need if you have a child who is asking, “What’s wrong with grandpa?”

Below: Laurie and her Dad (at age 101)

Children will:

  • Enjoy the story and illustrations and will identify with the main characters
  • Get answers to their questions
  • Grasp the nature and reason for a grandparent’s changes
  • Learn basic biological information about brain function
  • Understand why a grandparent will require more care
  • Feel empowered and find ways they can be helpful

Parents and caregivers will:

  • Have word-for-word scripts available to answer their child’s questions
  • Learn about the progression of the disease
  • Understand their role and the nature of care that is required
  • Gain information for decision-making in areas of medical, emotional and daily care
  • Know they are not alone in this difficult journey

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Excerpt from LIHerald.com Five Towns : “Cedarhurst Psychologist Writes ‘Please Explain Alzheimer’s Disease to Me'” (July 15, 2021)
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Casey O’Brien Martin, a school adjustment counselor, found the book to be a great resource to offer parents who come to her for help explaining a grandparent’s Alzheimer’s to their children.

“I feel like I have a go-to book on that,” Martin said. “So many times with kids, if they see their difficult experiences in a book it’s just so validating for them. I love that it talks about the changes and all the changes for the kid that are kind of hard to adjust to … it made it really simple for a child to understand.”

The second half of the book features information for parents including facts about Alzheimer’s, tips for dealing with loved ones with the disease, and a question and answer section on how to address a child’s questions.

Zelinger stressed that parental teaching is important to help a child’s understanding and development. “I want parents also to get information,” she said. “I want them to better understand the disease and know how to address the child’s questions at the child’s developmental level so that the child gains understanding and is satisfied with the answers that they get.”

Reviews

“Dr. Zelinger has provided an engaging book that presents important information in a user-friendly format and offers adults the foundation for easily engaging children in what may initially seem like a very difficult discussion. I will be sure to recommend this resource to everyone I know in the ‘sandwich generation.'”
— Shane S. Bush, Ph.D., ABPP, Board Certified in Geropsychology, President, American Board of Geropsychology

“Dr. Zelinger’s book helps take the mystery out of a truly mystifying disease. The children’s story will help reduce the anxiety and fear a child may have when faced with one suffering from Alzheimer’s, and the adult portion of this book gives practical examples to help guide the adult when questions arise. A truly informative and inspired book.”
— Marilyn Cherney, occupational therapist; grandmother

“…A very much needed book to explain a very difficult topic to our children and ourselves. Dr. Zelinger’s warmth, insight and clinical judgment shine through her every page! This is a superlative book that will get front row billing on my office bookshelf. “
–Deborah Lief-Dienstag MD, FAAP, pediatrician

“Dr. Zelinger takes a painful topic for both children and parents alike and turns it into a beautiful story and a detailed handbook that gives us the tools we need to broach a topic we all hope to never have to face. This book is a must-read for families facing the challenges that come along with a loved one experiencing Alzheimer’s disease.”
— Avi Satt, president, Allegria Senior Living

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Please Explain “Time Out” to Me!

 

TimeOut600pxTime Out is a dignified and effective method of discipline, endorsed by the American Academy of Pediatrics and the American Psychological Association. This book, written by parenting experts, explains the Time Out process and provides step-by-step instructions for its proper and effective use. Please Explain “Time Out” To Me is two books in one: an engaging story with colorful illustrations and a parent section which describes the Time Out process in detail, as well as the advantages and pitfalls of other methods of discipline.

Children will:

  • Enjoy the story and illustrations
  • Understand how Time Out works
  • Empathize with the characters in the book
  • Be treated respectfully when given a consequence
  • Experience the benefits of Time Out as a mechanism of behavior change

Parents and caregivers will:

  • Develop a plan for supplying responses to their child’s unacceptable behavior
  • Understand the rationale behind Time Out as a management technique
  • Learn how to use Time Out effectively
  • Better handle behavioral issues wherever they occur
  • Learn that physical forms of punishment do not work

Reviews

Drs. Zelinger book is clearly informed by literature and both clinical and personal experience. Its simplicity and ease-of-use and understanding allows for broad reach to all parents that face the normal challenges in raising children. The story to help the child understand makes this book unique, as well as the “fixer box” concept. Behavioral difficulties often stem from struggles around feeling in control. This book gives a concrete, more adaptive path for both parents and child to feel in control.
— David Salsberg, PsyD, DABPS Clinical Neuropsychologist; Director, Pediatric Assessment, Learning & Support (PALS), New York, NY.

In Please explain “Time Out” To Me, Drs. Laurie and Fred Zelinger offer a clear, concise and insightful look at the often misunderstood and misinterpreted concept of time out. Combining colorful illustrations and story line for children and step-by-step guidelines and principles for parents and adults, the book has unique appeal to both. I highly recommend this book, particularly to parents foraging through the tangled, complicated and sometimes scary web called parenthood.
— Iris Ackerman, LCSW, PhD, Clinical Social Worker

As a child psychiatrist, finding parenting books that are straightforward, helpful, and concise is a rare find indeed. Drs. Laurie and Fred Zelinger offer just that in Please Explain “Time Out To Me”. In its pages, they harness their expert clinical experience and judgment and offer it in a relatable, engaging, and entertaining way. I highly recommend this book to families who are struggling with the difficult journey of growing up and managing problem behaviors along the way.
— Stephen Perret, MD., Child Psychiatrist

Thumbs up for Drs. Zelinger’s book on explaining time out to kids. As a busy working mom with six children, I have used time out effectively. I would recommend reading this book to help understand the benefits of time out for both parents and children, and the effectiveness of time out as a learning tool. Drs. Zelinger’s thought out story will be a helpful, useful contribution for kids, parents and teachers.
— Chani Jacobowitz, LCSW; Mother of 6

From the Please Explain To Me… series
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Dr. Fred’s Therapeutic Services

 

The focus of Dr. Zelinger’s private practice is on helping individuals, couples, and families to improve or enhance the complicated relationships that so often impact their quality of life. The combinations are diverse and changing, involving: interactions with schools, careers, social needs, family function, and the relationship of individuals, couples or families to their surrounding environment. Continue reading

Paths To Success

 

The issue of a child’s not doing as well as they are able, is one that faces many parents. Within most families, the child’s perception of what constitutes “good enough “is influenced by a number of forces. Parental attitudes and expectations of behavior and performance appear to be the largest contributors to the child’s understanding of what it means to “do well”. Our own adult behavior, work ethic, level of attainment, and motivation become models which children perceive as standards. For some students, these observed expectations are positive influences, leading to success as well as happiness. For others, unfortunately, they are seen as unreachable goals or represent the need to be perfect, leading to a level of stress which can sometimes result in fragile emotionality or unhealthy behavior. The adage, “know thyself” and its corresponding “know thy children” is a critical piece of the child-rearing puzzle. Continue reading

When Nothing Works

 

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Ask Yourself

 

Did you ever find yourself looking at your children or students and wondering what kind of adults they will become? Will they find the types of happiness and fulfillment that we wish for them? Answers to these questions will often lead to a more fundamental concern; what can we do as parents and teachers to help them reach a successful future? The first step in figuring out the mechanisms of parenting and teaching is an honest and ongoing process of self-evaluation. Defining what we believe in and knowing what is important to us is a good beginning point. Try to ask yourself and answer some basic questions. Continue reading